Starting a therapy
Starting a therapy is, among other things, a declaration.
In making this step you declare your willingness to take responsibility for your life and your desire for a change. It is an important first step, sometimes the most difficult one.
There are no rules as to how one should start a therapy.
For adults, it usually comes from a feeling that something is stuck; something constantly bothers me about my life,
my relationship, my work...
For teenagers, it is usually a combination of feeling distress and a worried parent.
When a family decides to come for a consultation or a therapy, there is often one member of the family who shows the way: pointing bravely on the problem as well as on the possible way to get help.
The crucial thing is that you have at least a minimal motivation for bringing about a change in the situation that has become unbearable.
Psychotherapy does not necessarily contradict medical treatment. Yet, it seems that in our time the power of speech tends to be under-valuated. In many cases, 'chemical solution' is not the only possibility and even not the best one.
A psychodynamic or psychoanalytic psychotherapy offers a unique road for growth, revelations and change. In my experience, through talking and listening, you can find a new approach to our life, to ourselves and to those around us.
Within couple and family therapies, there is a space for rethinking problems and difficulties of living together, or being in a relationship: misunderstandings, difficulty in accepting the other, neglected relationship or lack of sharing; blurred roles or role that became stiff. When finding the courage to look straight into the problems and talk, you can effectively clear the way for something new to happen.